Best Vancouver Legal Advice on Divorce – Family Lawyers

What is the best Vancouver legal advice on divorce? After years of practising family law as a divorce lawyer in Vancouver, here are the best tips I can provide for anyone who is going through a Vancouver Divorce or separation:

Your Emotions – Best Vancouver Legal Advice on Divorce

Emotions are beautiful, and they are valid. I would never say that you should ignore your emotions. That is the worst mistake your can make. What you need to do is to address your emotions with your friends and family, and address your Vancouver divorce with logic. 

You need to make sure your logic and your emotions are friends, not enemies. So validate your emotions, experience them and discuss them with those around you. But make your emotions understand that in a divorce, they need to take a back seat and let your logic take over.

How do you find your logic? 

Find Your Logic – Best Vancouver Legal Advice on Divorce

Here are the ways to find your logic:

1. Ask at least 3 neutral, wise and objective people to hear your side and possibly hear your spouse’s side and tell you what they think is fair. Follow that, don’t argue with that. Best people to do this are counsellors, mediators, respectable and level-headed family friends. 
2. Talk to a Vancouver Divorce Lawyer. These people know the law, know your chances of success, and most importantly, they will know whether you are approaching your Vancouver divorce with emotion or logic. Listen to your lawyer. Your lawyer will often only want the best for you. Trust me, divorce lawyers are not there to get your money. They have more divorce cases than they can handle and are not hungry for your business. Trust them, otherwise do not hire them. To talk to our top Vancouver divorce lawyers*, click here.
3. Stop watching TV shows on Divorce – They are nothing like reality, and the judge is not your hero. Don’t go to court for validation. Go to court to get a fast and likely result. 
4. Stop doing Google searches on your rights – When it comes to Vancouver divorce, Google will at best give you your basic rights. It won’t analyze your situation. It won’t tell you if the article you are reading complies with the latest trend in court cases for Vancouver divorce. If the law could be learned from Google, we would all be lawyers or judges.

Now that you have the logic, what do you do with it?

Strategize Your Case – Best Vancouver Legal Advice on Divorce

This is the best Vancouver legal advice I can give to people who are going through a divorce or separation. You need to strategize as follows:

1. Decide on a deadline by which your divorce needs to be over once and for all;
2. You need to decide what issues you are dealing with. Generally, these are:
   1. Divorce;
   2. Custody or parenting time;
   3. Spousal Support;
   4. Child Support;
   5. Property and Debt Division;
3. Find your plan: plan how you are willing to address each of the 5 issues above. Should you negotiate, mediate or go to court? What are the costs and benefits of each of the steps? Which step makes more sense? It is vital that you at least consult with a family lawyer to know which avenue will best address your priorities and plans.
4. Budget – if you don’t have money to go through a full-blown trial, what can you do to get as close to the result you want without having to spend all the money? There are many options:
   1. Settlement conference;
   2. Mediation;
   3. Arbitration;
   4. Negotiation;
   5. Med-Arb;
   6. Summary Trial;
   7. Applications.

Every time you get sidetracked, go back to steps 1 to 4 of this guide and evaluate whether you are truly following the above steps. If not, figure out what you can do better to keep focused and execute your strategy. 

Divorce is one of the most stressful and difficult stages of life. But we humans were made to tolerate trauma and come out of it with our heads held high. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and focus on solutions rather than conflict and problems.

Need more help? Contact our top-rated Vancouver Divorce Lawyers* for an initial consultation to execute the above stages. Call us at 604-974-9529 or get in touch. 

*Leena Yousef is rated as the number one family lawyer in British Columbia by Lawyerratings.com and as the top 3 best lawyers in Vancouver by the threebest.com.Also voted as the best Vancouver family law firm in Vancouver by Top Choice Awards.